Updated: Jan 18, 2021
What if I told you that your thoughts were keeping those last 10 lbs stuck on you?
Yep, it is as simple as the thoughts you think. Don't believe me? Our thoughts hold incredible power in our brain. And research is beginning to show that it is much more than a cheerful attitude and just choosing to be happy. But that is where you start! Here is just one example of how your thoughts lead to the control of your emotions, which effect your actions, and eventually your results.
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Let's say you wake up early and find yourself late for your day, so as you are hurrying to get ready you end up spilling coffee all over your outfit. Frustrated and now very late, you have to back upstairs to change. Your intention this morning was to wake up early, do some yoga, take a shower and have a healthy breakfast. Instead, you are on your second change of clothes, second cup ( but really first) of coffee, and frazzle before you've even stepped out your front door. Your mind is already in a lacking and negative space because of the events that conspired and the thoughts surrounding this entire situation.
Next, you head to the drive through, grab a pastry and another "better" cup of coffee, to "treat" yourself after the morning you just had. Once you get to your destination you are feeling better from the sugar and caffeine jolt and settle in to begin your day. Everything is going smoothly, until your kid has told you about an unexpected project that is due...tomorrow. Great! More work, more stress... negative emotions are swirling like a tropical storm, and hopefully lunch time will yield a break.
Lunch break comes and you have decided to order some takeout while you cut and glue paper mache over a ball, hoping it will resemble the planet Mars. You order something you know you shouldn't eat, yet rationalize, because of this project, the carbs will help you through that 4 p.m. slump.
You hit 4 p.m. like a brick wall and crave the cookie that came with your sandwich for $1 (meant for the kids, consumed by moms...all the time). Obviously, you have some coffee to go with it too. Now you are feeling a slew of guilt, because the good thing you intended to do this morning, was "sabotaged" by some bad luck and and poor timing on your part.
"I can never be successful at this." You think to yourself. "How do other women do it?"
With dinner time on the horizon, you have managed to make a semi healthy meal for your entire family! Win!
And after the dishes and cleaning up the Mache de Mars, it is nearly 8 p.m.
"It's entirely too late to do yoga right now, and plus, I'm SO tired."
So you head upstairs to end your day on a good note. With a favorite show until you have to do it all over again tomorrow.
And while I get that not every day will be "the worst day ever" status, I know all too many women who fall into this exhausting trap and give up on their wellness goals.
Researchers have long known that negative emotions program your brain to do a specific action. When you wake up late, it creates a feeling of rush and stress. The rest of the world doesn't matter. You are focused entirely on the problem, and how to get ahead of it.
In other words, negative emotions narrow your mind and focus your thoughts. At that same moment, you might have the option to take a breath, listen to a podcast once your home, look at your schedule and see where you can fit it 30 minutes of yoga, not choose the drive thru — but your brain ignores all of those options because they seem irrelevant when you are stress and want to be comforted.
In this case, your brain closed off from the outside world and focuses on the negative emotions of fear, anger, and stress. Negative emotions prevent your brain from seeing the other options and choices that surround you. It's your survival instinct.
So, what CAN you do?
Think positive! When you are experiencing positive emotions like joy, contentment, and love, you will see more possibilities in your life. And here are 3 ways you can include this easily into any part of your day.
Meditation: Research has revealed that people who meditate daily display more positive emotions than those who do not. As expected, people who meditated also build valuable long–term skills, like better health and wellness. People who meditate daily display increased mindfulness, purpose in life, social support, and decreased illness symptoms. If you need a great 21 Day Guided Meditation, I can help you with one!
Journaling: Journaling can be an incredibly relaxing experience. Before the pandemic hit (literally days before!), I began a Gratitude Journal. A simple process of listing 5 things I was grateful for. It morphed into some journal prompts that allow me to work through ups and downs of my life, but looking back, it has been such an important part of my mindset during this time. I highly recommend it, and Gratitude is FREE!
Play: Yep, adults need play too! Let loose and have some FUN! Schedule time to play into your life. We schedule meetings, events, and other responsibilities into our daily calendars … why not schedule time to play? When was the last time you intentionally carved out time to have fun? Head to that new yoga class. Find a friend and go on a hike. Take your workout outdoors and breath in the fresh air...and make sure to turn OFF distractions ( cough:cough), like your cell phone. Give yourself permission to smile and enjoy and explore. Schedule time for adventure so that you can experience contentment and joy.
This isn't a quick fix and taking the last 10 lbs off will take some time, but if you implement some of these suggestions into your daily life, I would love to hear how they have helped you feel in more balance, and able to tackle your goals.
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